No More Learning

Each time he describes an au- thoritarian trait or behavior pattern of his father he seems constrained to deny it or to cancel it out by mentioning something of an opposite charac- ter: although "he forced some           on me," he "allowed me to do as I pleased"; arguments were about "things he didn't want me to have," but "he never denied me anything I needed"; "he scolded but usually talked things over"; "I've had to shift for myself a lot," but "his attention to us kids was very admirable.